I Love This Pastor! See Video

Anyone who knows anything about me knows I was part of a radical, extreme church for a while, and that, as a result, I am not part of any church now. I’m still healing, and part of that healing process involves researching for and writing several books that have to to with extreme religion.

Today I came across this video of a fiery pastor who asks why religious people feel the need to condemn homosexuality and same sex marriage. See the video here – it’s pretty amazing. At one point, he gets too real for his own congregation, but that’s why I love him so.

He challenges ignorance. He challenges fear. He asks why straight folk feel the need to oppress GBLT couples. It’s great stuff. Just fabulous. This guy is lucid, and rational, and he moved my soul. Thank you, pastor. Thank you.

Watch the Video Here

My heart has been bleeding about this topic lately. I can’t help but to echo this pastor’s sentiments. Why, oh WHY do straight people feel the need to stop gay people from getting married? Why do they feel the need to condemn a form of sex just because they don’t enjoy it, or they don’t understand it? Why do people feel the need to condemn people who are unlike themselves?

Deeper than this, why do so many people feel the need to suppress sexuality in general? What is so scary about sex that people throughout history have felt the need to control what their people do? Why is sex so scary that people feel the need to control – not only what they do, but what other people do?

These are the questions that run through my head as I write out the story of a man I recently interviewed. His name is Gabe, and his story has moved my heart so very deeply. When I work on his story,  I can hear his voice cracking as he cried, telling me how he had done his best to get straight. He’d tried so hard to be someone he wasn’t. He’d spent years of his life and thousands of dollars desperately trying to be someone he wasn’t.

God created Gabe gay. And yet, Gabe tried for years to be something he wasn’t – to please the very Being who created him to be who he is.

I believe God loves us as we are. Just as I love my children (and I am fallible) just the way they are, God loves us now. There is nothing we can (or should) do differently.

Like I said earlier, I’m no longer religious. I’m not even sure what I believe doctrine-wise. Is God a God? A Goddess? A genderless Creator? A nameless being? I don’t know. But I do believe this with all my heart: I believe that God is loving and accepting, and I believe in spreading that love and acceptance as far and wide as I can.

Peace to all. Spread love, not hate.

Is Conversion Therapy Linked to Radical Religion?

I come from a background of radical religion. As a result, I’ve found myself drawn to stories of people who have also immersed themselves in radical religion. This interest of mine has led me into the world of religious LGBT community, and also to the topic of conversion therapy, in which gay men and women try to change or suppress their sexual orientation. This is usually done to “please God.”

My research led me to discover an expert in this field: Jallen Rix, sexologist and author of Ex-Gay No Way.

Dr. Rix is also interested in the root cause of what motivates a person to try to change something so integral and personal as sexual orientation. He was a part of the ex-gay movement, and now works as a sex therapist.

Dr. Rix has recently conducted a survey, asking people who engaged in conversion therapy why they tried to change their sexual orientation. His survey results are fascinating.

One of the main conclusions Dr. Rix made from his survey was this: most people who try to change their sexual orientation do so for religious reasons. They believe they will not be loved or accepted (by God and/or a religious community) if they do not suppress their sexuality or change from gay to straight. You can read about this here on the conclusions page of his survey results.

As I work on my books about conversion therapy, I am using information from researchers like Dr. Rix. Keep following me to discover what other experts in this field have to say on the subject.

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Research for my book

One of the reasons behind my work on a nonfiction book is my history in a radical religious group, the International Church of Christ.

I’ve been out of the ICOC since 2003, but I wanted to check into what outside sources say about the ICOC, just to assure myself that I’m not exaggerating my experiences as I work on a draft of my book. The following is a video of a news report on an investigation into the ICOC, which validates my memories.

Video Investigation into Radical Religion – ICOC

Radical religion can cause so much damage. That is what my experience is – and what motivates me to research and work on my book, Abomination, about the damage done to gay men and lesbians by radical religious therapy.

International Church of Christ

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